I think we grow up learning not to trust ourselves, ignoring what we feel is right for us because of all the ways we’re told by the people closest to us and the rest of society what we need to learn to change and correct. The criticism feels like so much and it’s so hard to navigate with our emotions, so we learn to stop listening to ourselves and do what others want in the hopes that they will befriend us, help show us that we can be better. We think that others may be able to guide us to be better. We’ve been wrong so often, we can’t trust that we know what’s right for us anymore. All the criticism around us teaches us that we can’t trust ourselves to do things without others’ help. This episode explores how this looks like for me with a few stories and the one thing that I’m doing to help develop my self trust and why this works.
What I knew:
Not listening to my intuition
Not remembering the lessons learned in past mistakes
Constant criticism
Listening to everyone else around me and not myself
Feeling feel so intense,
The problems with self trust I experience:
Control
Perfectionism
Oversensitive to criticism
People pleasing
Takeaway tip:
One Small Self Care Promise (ex: write 3 things you’re grateful for, drink a glass of water first thing, make your bed, stretch, do 10 push ups first thing)
Resources:
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Issues with Self Trust