resisting the rules of not-enoughness & too-muchness
letting go of making myself small
Hey friends,
My goal has always been to create the kind of journal I’ve always wanted and needed. With the self-publishing of my upcoming embodiment journal (still workshopping names for it), I think I’ve finally stumbled on to it! It’s coming together brilliantly and I can’t be more excited about it!
But let me be clear. It’s not a workbook.
Yes, rebuilding the relationship between our mind and body is work, like rebuilding any relationship, but journaling isn’t work, rather a practice we develop. The journal I’m creating is a space to support and guide you in being with more of what you’re noticing as you write.
It’s quite simple, really. The more I can connect to my body and meet its needs, the more trust I develop in myself. That makes it easier for me to show up as I am and allow others to do the same. Okay, it’s simple in theory, but the practice is hard. Sometimes it is work. However, it’s still a practice that we can do together.
Part of this support is found in the type of questions I ask. I don’t blame or shame. Instead I try to help you see the problem as a separate issue you’re facing. When we begin to see the problem as outside ourselves, more inner knowledge, skills, beliefs and values that guided our actions become visible. That makes it easier to feel into our next best action because we’re clear about
So, slow down. Breathe. Read the quote from a part of my journal, below. Pause. What sensations did you notice as you read? What surprised you with your response? Let me know in the comments.
With love and gratitude,
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Follow the instructions on the drawing below as you reflect on a (not laced with loads of trauma) problem you’re currently experiencing. Colour or label where discomfort comes up in your body, before AND AFTER you write.
A quote from an entry in my upcoming embodiment journal:
“The smaller I make myself, the smaller my life becomes. What I mean by that is when I make decisions from a place of fear and lack, I narrow the focus of my life. I begin to believe the stories I tell myself about my not-enoughness, too-muchness, and all the ways that what makes me different makes me bad or wrong.”
Chose a question to answer:
1. If you had to give message of “the Not-Enoughness” a formal name, what would it be? (e.g. The Rule Keeper, The Shadow Director, Betty). What’s its main instruction for you? What is the one thing it demands you must never do?
2. How does The Fear convince you that shrinking is the safest option? What benefits does The Fear promise you in return for making your life smaller?
3. Think of a time when you chose Love and Trust over Fear and Lack? What skills or knowledge did you use in that moment to pause the shrinking?
This is exciting to see!