Neurodivergent people learn to betray what we’re certain are our own needs in hopes of fitting in. But we’re never certain that we’ll actually get it right when we change for others. There’s also the fact that we often misunderstand what we need to change in order to get it right too. And people aren’t afraid to inform us if we haven’t too. I’m never sure if I’ve changed enough and whether I’ll be able to keep it up if I need to change again.  There’s not much worse than waiting in uncertainty because we’ve learned the risk to guess wrong is often just too high.