Sep 2, 2022Liked by Sandra Coral

The liminality of this is so true - and applies to so many areas of our lives. I think that is such a large part of the anxiety and stress we live with: the precarity of "what if this is the time I get it wrong/they read me wrong?" And with so many of those instances already loaded up in/from our past, ready to play on a loop at the drop of a hat on particularly bad mental health days, another one becomes more and more costly. It sucks 😓🤔😮‍💨

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Sep 3, 2022·edited Sep 3, 2022Liked by Sandra Coral

I absolutely hear you. If we determine resilience-building by activities that exercise our different survival skills *without* wearing out our foundation(al resources), then uncertainty/liminality is at best an extremely small/high tolerance part of that. It absolutely cannot be a day to day, week to week, component of how we strengthen/nurture ourselves.

I think of it in strength training terms: there are (usually low to medium) weights you'll do the majority of your exercise repetitions on, and then there are (high) weights you'll do 1-2 repetitions on. That's because if you use the latter weights for the former repetitions, you *will* fail* sooner and harder, and possibly injure yourself or burn out (physically and, or, mentally). As a result you won't build endurance, and therein strength, as well, as quickly, or as sustainably as if you increase your weights steadily.

I think the same can be said for the growth we speak of - and btw I think we do need. I just think how we go about it needs to be re-thought right? It certainly needs to be constructed and executed with ND people in mind - like anything we have and do in order to survive this hellscape of capitalism we call life.

Just as we frankenhack (a term Seth Perler uses I think) study, work, personal care, and other areas of our lives, so too will we need to take what's useful from the mainstream/NT ideas of resilience-building/growth and bend, solder, and fill in the gaps to be meaningful and robust for us.

*Fail in this context means to be physically unable to complete an exercise, and is a term used in different exercise regimens (e.g. exercise til fail).

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